Why Every Man Needs a “Why”: Loneliness, Leaving, and Becoming the Author of Your Life

About this sermon

Every 13 minutes in America, a man dies by suicide. Dr. Baruch’s mission is simple and audacious—push that number back to 14. In this intimate conversation, Dr. Cody Young shares a raw journey through a school shooting that impacted his family, the loneliness many men quietly carry, and the seismic life shift of leaving his lifelong faith. Together, B and Cody explore moving from “Mr. Nice Guy” to a good man—taking radical responsibility, building real brotherhood, and claiming authorship over your life. == Join our Own Your Number Enneagram Program just for 98$, and well, own your relationships. Check out here: https://ownyournumber.defiantspirit.org/pages/home 🔹 What You'll Learn: The 13-minute mission: reframing men’s mental health with a concrete goal. Evergreen High School shooting: a father’s helplessness, a community’s response, and unseen trauma after crisis. The loneliness epidemic in men: why having “people around” isn’t the same as having community. Faith transition & excommunication: cost of leaving a high-control community, grief, and rebuilding belonging. From “nice” to “good”: the moral courage to take a stand—even when it creates conflict. Shadow work & humility: moving from being a knower to a seeker; questioning, integrating, and growing. Radical responsibility: becoming the author of your life (and why authority starts with authorship). Men’s groups that go deep: beyond sports and weather—practicing vulnerability, service, and accountability. Parenting after trauma: noticing the hidden aftershocks and supporting healing over time. 📌 Timestamp Highlights: 0:05 — The rebrand: why “13 Minutes” and the goal to push it to 14. 0:56 — What a 1-minute shift would mean: 2,888 men choosing life this year. 1:22 — Evergreen, CO school shooting: Cody’s daughter barricaded; parents’ helplessness. 4:06 — Injury update and outcome; the shooter’s death by suicide. 6:17 — School & community response: resources, care, and the “after” of trauma. 7:54 — The bridge to men’s work: loneliness as a common denominator. 10:15 — Origin story: growing up LDS (Mormon), marriage, and a faith built into identity. 12:28 — Leaving the church: losing community, starting a support group, and backlash. 14:50 — Formal excommunication: recording and publishing the proceedings—and why. 18:03 — From “nice guy” to good man: taking a stand even when it isn’t “nice.” 20:07 — The turning point question: “If it isn’t true, would you want to know?” 22:42 — Applying scientific thinking to faith; following data and intuition out of certainty. 26:02 — Early cracks: polygamy, Book of Mormon anachronisms, and cognitive dissonance. 31:02 — Family ties & eternity narratives: how excommunication reframes relationships. 35:11 — Moving to Colorado: rebuilding friendship muscles without a ready-made community. 37:00 — Why men’s groups (MKP, etc.) matter: depth, service, and real talk. 38:59 — Image management vs. vulnerability: why depth was missing before. 44:49 — “Circle the wagons”: insulation, persecution narratives, and not Googling the hard questions. 46:05 — Becoming a seeker: humility, curiosity, learning across traditions. 48:53 — Radical ownership: accountability without outsourcing to leaders or dogma. 51:30 — Fatherhood after crisis: standing steady at the center so the family can orbit. 🔔 Stay Connected: Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/baruch_halevi/ Join our Facebook community: https://www.facebook.com/TheDefiantSpirit Guest Links — Dr. Cody Young Professional Profile: Nationwide Children’s Hospital — Dr. Cody M. Young https://www.nationwidechildrens.org/find-a-doctor/profiles/cody-m-young Men don’t need more answers—they need a reason, a brotherhood, and the courage to author their lives. #Enneagram #EnneagramType #EnneagramTest #Man #Men #DefiantSpirit #DrBaruchHaLevi #Communication #PersonalDevelopment #PersonalGrowth #SpiritualGrowth

Topics

• Relationships
• Strength in Hard Times