Why Contempt Destroys Marriages (And How to Stop It) | Dr. Dan Allender | Ep. 586

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Dr. Dan Allender, trauma therapist, author, and survivor unpacks how your unexamined stories, shame, and past wounds may quietly be shaping your marriage, and what to do about it. Ep. 586 Theotokos Rosaries: https://dwplus.shop/TheotokosRosaries -- -- -- 📚 Resources Mentioned: The Deep Rooted Marriage: https://a.co/d/02UJXeE7 Love & War: https://a.co/d/0aX4QfzZ Wild At Heart Podcast Episode featuring Dan & Becky Allender: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tQ-ro23hog4 Truthy 30 Day Free Trial: https://get.truthly.ai/TlbX/MATT30 -- -- -- 00:00:00 — Intro 00:06:19 — Childhood trauma 00:15:16 — How traumatic memory works 00:19:35 — Defining trauma 00:22:26 — Defining shame 00:48:09 — Teenage addiction and drug dealing 00:50:57 — Meeting Becky 01:04:13 — Coming to faith 02:25:07 — Abuse 02:31:48 — Finding healing 02:35:04 — How trauma shapes parenting 02:46:01 — Shame and contempt in marriage 03:03:13 — Spiritual warfare in marriage 03:10:44 — Book recommendations -- -- -- Today's Sponsors: Charity Mobile: Visit https://charitymobile.com/MATTFRADD and use code MATTFRADD to get a free phone with every new line, plus free activation and free shipping. Hallow: If you’d like to grow deeper in your relationship with God, visit https://hallow.com/mattfradd and get 3 months free. Shopify: Stop waiting for permission to build something. Your next revenue stream starts free at https://shopify.com/pints . PreBorn: Families are where we first learn how to love and be loved. When we invest in families, we’re not just helping people today, we’re shaping future generations. Dial # 250 and say “BABY” or visit https://preborn.com/PINTS . Seven Weeks Coffee: Go to https://sevenweekscoffee.com/PINTS and save 15% forever when you subscribe. Plus, use code PINTS for an additional 10% off your first order and a free gift. Catholic People’s Foundation: Don't let this once-in-a-century Route 66 celebration pass you by. Visit https://V8sForVocations.org and get your tickets today. -- -- -- Become a Daily Wire Member and watch all of our content ad-free: https://www.dailywire.com/subscribe 📲 Download the free Daily Wire app today on iPhone, Android, Roku, Apple TV, Samsung, and more. -- -- -- 📕 Get my newest book, Jesus Our Refuge, here: https://a.co/d/bDU0xLb 🍺 Want to Support Pints With Aquinas? 🍺 Get episodes a week early, score a free PWA beer stein, and join exclusive live streams with me! Become an annual supporter at 👉 https://mattfradd.locals.com/support -- -- -- 💻 Follow Me on Social Media: 📌 Facebook: https://facebook.com/mattfradd 📸 Instagram: https://instagram.com/mattfradd 𝕏 Twitter/X: https://twitter.com/Pints_W_Aquinas 🎵 TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@pintswithaquinas 📚 PWA Merch – https://dwplus.shop/MattFraddMerch 👕 Grab your favorite PWA gear here: https://shop.pintswithaquinas.com #MattFradd #DanAllender #PintsWithAquinas #CatholicPodcast #CatholicYouTube #DailyWire #TheDailyWire