Unraveling The Source of Our Sexual Shame: Jay Stringer Deconstructs Purity Culture

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We’re starting a new series that is going to be fire–it’s For the Love of Dating, Sex and Relationships. We’re going to cover a lot of territory over the life of this series–and with this episode we’re going to start with a question; what was it that you learned about sex during the most formative years of your life? Because whether you realize it or not, this can greatly shape how you approach sex as an adult. Maybe you’ve been unraveling what it is you think about sex, how you think about your body, what sex means to you–and you’re tracing it back to what you learned as teenager or young adult–and maybe that education wasn’t positive. To help guide us through making those connections to our early sexual education and how we view sex today is therapist Jay Stringer–returning for his second appearance on the show. Jay pulls back the curtain on the teachings many of us got about sex when we were young. Even if you never were a part of movements like “True Love Waits,” or received lessons on purity culture by your church, or other religious organizations–perhaps there was a rigid sexual space in the childhood home you grew up in. We’re speaking to all the ways sex might have been presented to us with messages of shame. Jay encourages us to look at our sexual stories, seeking ways to find healing and wholeness toward a healthy view of sex. And bonus–for you parents who find talking about sex with your kids akin to a slow, painful death, Jay and Jen talk through ways can engage our kids around sex without the shame approach that a lot of us experienced, and to have those conversations in a loving, age-appropriate way by being open and responsive. Content Warning: This episode talks extensively about sex, sexuality, and unwanted sexual behaviors, so it may not be suitable for young listeners. * * * Thank you to our sponsors! ➤ Betterhelp | Head to betterhelp.com/forthelove to get 10% off your first month. ➤ Liquid IV | Get 25% off your order at liquidiv.com using code FORTHELOVE at checkout. ➤ SPONSOR 3 | #ForTheLove #ForTheLovePodcast #JenHatmaker _________ CHECK OUT Resources Mentioned in This Episode: ➤ Unwanted: How Sexual Brokeness Reveals Our Way to Healing - Jay Stringer - https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/unwanted-jay-stringer/1128198732?ean=9781631466724 ➤ Addressing Broken Sexual Behavior with Jay Stringer - For the Love Podcast Episode - https://jenhatmaker.com/podcast/series-40/elephants-in-the-room-part-3-addressing-broken-sexual-behavior-with-jay-stringer/ ➤ The Great Sex Rescue: The Lies You’ve Been Taught and How to Recover What God Intended - Sheila Gregoire - https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/the-great-sex-rescue-sheila-wray-gregoire/1137151833?ean=9781540900821 ➤ Come As You Are: Revised and Updated: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life - Emily Nagoski - https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/come-as-you-are-emily-nagoski-phd/1137251303?ean=9781982165314 ➤ Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less - Greg McKeown - https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/essentialism-greg-mckeown/1115696845?ean=9780804137409 ➤ Dr. Dan Allender - https://theallendercenter.org/about/team/dan-allender/ CONNECT with Our Guest! ➤ Website: https://jay-stringer.com ➤ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JayStringerUnwanted/ ➤ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jay_stringer_/ ➤ Twitter: https://twitter.com/_jaystringer ___ ➤ JEN HATMAKER BOOK CLUB - Join the sisterhood! https://jenhatmakerbookclub.com ___ WATCH more videos from Jen: ➤ For the Love of Small Wins series: https://bit.ly/FTLsmallwins ➤ For the Love of The Enneagram series: https://bit.ly/FTLenneagram ➤ Happy Hour: http://bit.ly/JensHappyHour ➤ Monday Mornings with Jen: http://bit.ly/MondayMorningsJen ___ CONNECT with Jen! ➤ FOLLOW Jen on Instagram: https://instagram.com/jenhatmaker ➤ FOLLOW Jen on Twitter: https://twitter.com/jenHatmaker/ ➤ LIKE Jen on Facebook: https://facebook.com/jenhatmaker ➤ SUBSCRIBE NOW on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/JenHatmaker?sub_confirmation=1 ➤ VISIT: http://jenhatmaker.com/ ___ For more “For the Love” . . . ➤ SUBSCRIBE on Apple Podcasts: http://bit.ly/FTLPodcastApple ➤ LISTEN on Spotify: http://bit.ly/FTLPodcastSpotify ➤ HEAR IT on Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FTLPodcastStitcher ➤ LISTEN on iHeartRadio: http://bit.ly/FTLPodcastiHeart

Topics

• Forgiveness
• Holiness
• Purity
• Christian Living