The Prayer Most Christians Avoid

About this sermon

What if the pain you’re avoiding is actually the path to healing? And what if God already gave you the words for it? In Part 2 of this conversation, John Ortberg and Rankin Wilbourne explore one of the most overlooked practices in the Christian life: lament. If the Psalms are the prayer book of God’s people, why are so many of them… sad? And why do we avoid praying that way? You’ll discover: - Why lament is essential (not optional) in spiritual life - How lament becomes a bridge between pain and trust - Why avoiding pain actually deepens it - A practical way to pray honestly without getting stuck in despair This is Part 2 of a 3-part conversation on learning to pray your emotions. 📚 Today's Resources: A Grief Observed — C. S. Lewis (indirect thematic reference) Naming the Silences — Stanley Hauerwas 🙌 New episodes every weekday. 📲 Subscribe, like, and share to help others grow spiritually. One day at a time. Become New is here to help you grow spiritually one day at a time. TEXT us at 51504 EMAIL US at connect@becomenew.com GET OUR WEEKDAY EMAILS WITH EXTRA GOODIES at becomenew.com/subscribe GET A TEXT REMINDER FOR NEW VIDEOS: text NEW to 51504 SEND US PRAYER REQUESTS: via text or email; we'll send you a written prayer from our team DOWNLOAD FREE STUDY GUIDES: BecomeNew.com/study-guides 😊 Join Our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1CnqywVp9s/ 🤳Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/become.new/ Music Credits: Vikersund by RØRE - MB01V0UASAACPKE Alta by RØRE - MB01IWZVJASGKHF 00:00 – Picking Up the Conversation (Part 2) 00:21 – Why the Psalms Are Full of Sad Songs 01:17 – 30–70% of Psalms Are Laments 01:44 – “How Long, O Lord?” (Psalm 13) 02:14 – What Lament Reveals About Life 02:40 – Why We Resist Lament 03:06 – What Lament Actually Is 03:36 – Permission to Bring Everything to God 04:08 – Do You Pray Like This? 04:31 – Image 1: Running Toward the Storm (Buffalo) 05:31 – Why Avoiding Pain Makes It Worse 06:04 – The Paradox of Grief 06:34 – Image 2: Lament as a Bridge 06:59 – From Pain → Trust (Psalm 13 Turn) 07:38 – How Psalms Train Us to Trust 08:04 – When Prayer Turns Into Rumination 08:52 – Using Psalms as Scaffolding 09:43 – Why Lament Doesn’t Leave You Stuck 10:11 – Learning the “Turn” to Trust 10:46 – Rehearsing Trust Like a Song 11:13 – Naming the Silences 11:48 – Training Your Heart Through Prayer 12:13 – Guided Prayer (Psalm 5) 12:58 – Key Takeaways + Preview Part 3

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• Prayer