Parenting with Love | Homebuilding 101 | Duane Brooks

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This weeks message from Senior Pastor Duane Brooks on Parenting with Love in our Homebuilding 101 series shares through Biblical examples how to effectively parent our children. King David had many children. His parenting styles with different children led to mixed results. One wonders if his own guilt over his previous failures paralyzed him and prevented him from correcting his children’s mistakes. It is hard to find great examples of parenting in the families described in scripture. There was no perfect family then or now. But we do have a perfect Father who disciplines us in love to make us holy. Will we receive his discipline? Message based on 1 Kings 1:5-10 and Hebrews 12:3-11. Time Stamps: 00:00 Modern parenting challenges reveal need for guidance. 04:40 God disciplines those he loves as children. 07:36 God promises David an eternal dynasty. 09:50 David didn't discipline his sons; consequences followed. 15:24 Hardship signifies God's discipline and love. 17:15 A father's discipline showed care and connection. 21:26 God's discipline strengthens and restores, not condemns. 23:47 Parents' control is limited when children grow. 27:11 God's discipline is purposeful, leading to holiness. 32:56 Please God; be faithful, righteous, and peaceful. 33:56 God disciplines to shape us and show love. Quotes: Duane Brooks: God disciplines us out of love, and when we love our children we will discipline them for the purpose of formation and education; not for the purpose of punishment. John Perkins wrote in his book Let Justice Roll Down about how his own father spanked him before he deserted him. “I knew daddy was going away without me. But I still didn’t turn back. So once more he came back and whupped me a last time.” He never understood why his dad left that day, but he wrote, “Even when he punished me for following him that afternoon, he was admitting we had some sort of relationship.” Zig Ziglar: A child who is not disciplined in love by his little world—meaning, the child's parents—will be disciplined without love by the big world. Duane Brooks: We are tempted to think: if God loved me he would not let me go through this. What if the pain in our lives is proof that God does love us, that he is working to redeem what he has allowed. We submit to his discipline. Chrysostom: The very thing that makes us feel deserted actually gives us confidence that we have not been deserted. Duane Brooks: Discipline ... is to strengthen and restore, not condemn or destroy. Eugene Peterson : Suffering is not evidence of God’s absence, but of God’s presence, and it is in our experience of being broken that God does his surest and most characteristic salvation work. There is a way to accept, embrace, and deal with suffering that results in a better life, not a worse one, and more of the experience of God, not less. God is working out his salvation in our lives the way he has always worked it out—at the place of brokenness, at the cross of Jesus, and at the very place where we take up our cross. Duane Brooks: Our heavenly father disciplines us for our good so that we may share in his holiness. Discipline is never pleasant, but God’s discipline is purposeful. C. S. Lewis: Pain is God’s megaphone to rouse a sleeping world. God whispers to us in our pleasures, He speaks to us in our conscience, and He shouts to us in our pain. Tom Landry: The job of a coach is to make men do what they don’t want to do, in order to be what they’ve always wanted to be! Ajith Fernando: In the Western church, there seems to be a lot of reflection on how to avoid suffering and on what to do when we hurt. The "good life," comfort, convenience, and a painless life have become necessities that people view as basic rights. One of the results of this attitude is a severe restriction of spiritual growth, for God intends us to grow through trials. A W Tozer: People do not drift toward holiness. Apart from grace-driven effort, people do not gravitate toward godliness, prayer, obedience to Scripture, faith, and delight in the Lord. We drift toward compromise and call it tolerance; we drift toward disobedience and call it freedom; we drift toward superstition and call it faith. We cherish the indiscipline of lost self-control and call it relaxation; we slouch toward prayerlessness and delude ourselves into thinking we have escaped legalism; we slide toward godlessness and convince ourselves we have been liberated. #children #discipline #home New here? Join us every Sunday at 10:30 am CT and every Wednesday at 6 pm CT or visit our website at https://www.tallowood.org for more information. Connect with us on our social media. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tallowoodbaptist Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tallowoodbc/ X: https://www.twitter.com/tallowoodbc

Topics

• Love & Compassion
• Parenting